I have an announcement to make, so listen up and pass it on---
Not every woman on the planet is helpless or fragile.
Seriously. There are so many chores/activities that many of us of the female variety are quite capable of doing all by ourselves. Without help.
And guess what else? IF we do need some help, we know how to ask for it. Amazing, isn't it?
Not all of us need someone to carry our grocery bags for us. Not all of us need someone to move the furniture for us when rearranging a room. Not all of us need you to reach something on a high shelf or mow the lawn or carry debris and tree limbs to the curb for us. Not all of us need someone to do the driving or even make decisions for us.
And some of us can get rather resentful if, after knowing a woman for 30 years, you still try to help where you are not needed.
The problem around here is that someone is always willing to help when help is not needed but not willing to help when help IS needed. That's just annoying. Or mean. Or stupid.
I am one of those women who does not appreciate having someone's nose in her business. I am not helpless. I am not stupid or ignorant. And I do not work well with others when the others are trying to tell me what to do and how to do it without being asked. That, in my opinion is NOT teamwork. That just pisses me off. And, when you see the look of pissedoffedness on my face, you seriously need to stop it. Immediately.
If your idea of teamwork involves the sharing of ideas and actions, then sign me up! Otherwise, you are on your own and I would appreciate you leaving me on my own.
If it's a helpless, fragile woman you want who will hang on your every word no matter how idiotic it sounds and do everything your way just because that's the way you want it done and be void of her own opinions (even better not have a thought in her pretty little head) then Mister you're in the wrong house.
Everyone needs help sometimes. I know that. But most of us- men and women- can function pretty darn well on our own two feet. I also realize that, sometimes, people are just trying to be nice. But, when I say, "No thank you. I've got it." Back. Off. Do not try to force your help on me or you may see the crazy lady come out. In full force.
Do you know anyone who tries to force their help when no help is needed?