Bouncin' Barb is HERE!

Y'all! I am SO excited! One of my most favorite people in the world is guest posting right HERE! On Grinding My Grits! 

Thaaaat's Right! It's Bouncin' Barb and she's going to grind her grits. Y'all might already know her as the lovely, hilarious, smart, wonderful, friendly lady who lives and loves at the beach. If you don't know her, head on over to her blog. You won't be sorry! She's a riot! But today, she's got grits to grind.  

Thank you, Barb, for stopping by and sharing this post with us. She's asking for your take on the situation too. So read up and let's get those comments flying! 

Before I begin Grinding My Grits, I want to thank my lovely hostess for having me visit for a guest post.  It’s been quite awhile since I've been a guest somewhere so I can’t forget my manners.

Some of you may or may not know me but I’m Bouncin’ Barb from over at This & That (As I Bounce ThruLife) I've been blogging for 4 years now but the last 2 have been very sporadic. Life has certainly put me on a roller coaster ride the last year especially.  However, I have always been a pretty upbeat person and my blog has been a reflection of that. 

My 7 year relationship with a live in boyfriend came to an official end in January. It was a very good way to start the year as I did some emotional and home cleansing. Burning sage is a great thing for removing negative energy!! We had been on and off for some time so to finally have peace, quiet and a clean place all to myself was great.  It was very therapeutic. He moved out of state and while I tried remaining friendly it became clear it was best to just sever the ties.

Now,  I've met a new man who is really great and totally independent both financially and emotionally! We are enjoying each other and see each other a couple of times a week. I have definitely moved on with my life.

One other very important part of my life are my beautiful Granddaughter’s.  They are my pride and joy and I have been a big part of their lives. They are going on 12 and 13 in a few months. Long story short…my son and their mother gave up custody of them when they were babies to her parents. Her parents then legally adopted them even though my son and their mother are still present in their lives. Last August, their adopted Mom passed away after a long illness and the past year has been trying for the girls but they have done remarkably well .

So when do I start Grinding My Grits?

Well, the adopted Dad began seeing someone earlier in the year. He never mentioned it to me but when my girls came for vacation this summer they spilled the beans!!  Hey, I've been in his shoes so more power to him.

While we were out one day the girls started telling me all about this new woman. Where she lived, what she looked like, her family, where she worked, etc.  Sounds like this new woman has wound her way into their lives and I hear them talking on the phone to her telling her they love her and miss her and her young grandkids.

One thing about me is that I have a memory like an elephant! As they were telling me about this woman, things started sounding too familiar. Finally I asked them if her name was blah blah. When they said yes, I felt sick to my stomach. Turns out she is an ex-girlfriend of my ex that just moved out. 

I can’t believe it! I want to be done with him once and for all. Problem is, this woman keeps bringing him up in conversations. I have seen a text or two the girls read to me and I think that’s just wrong.  It's only been one year for them and I don't think they're done processing the loss of their Mom.

My ex and her haven’t been together for a long, long time.  But, about the time she and the Dad started seeing each other, she sent a friend request to my ex on Facebook.  Started asking a bunch of questions about the girls Mom who passed away and how well he knew her.

Folks, we aren't talking the same town or even the same county here or even the same job. How those two met is a bit of a mystery. Something seems a bit fishy to me and I want nothing to do with this woman or my ex. Seriously, what are the odds of this happening?

Now please understand that I abhor drama. I hope I don’t get pulled into something here because of something stupid.  I don’t want to have to show my “grit” and believe me, this Jersey Girl has grit!!!

Tell me what you think about this situation. Do you think I’m making too much out of it? Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts.

Hope to see you over at my blog. Until next time........BB

Love and Hugs from the Beach!!